An Open Letter

To be fully honest, the only need that gets left neglected when not in a relationship is sex. Everything else through some extent I can fill through other ways. I also do think that validation is something that I will be missing, and I think maybe it’s a noble goal to pursue feeling like I don’t even need external validation.

I would also like to learn more about the abundance mindset, I’d like to focus more on believing that there are plenty of wonderful women out there that will match my energy, both the chaotic sides, and also the emotionally intelligent sides. I think the more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve really liked the idea of having a partner that’s similar to me in terms of intelligence. I think there’s so many nice knock on effects from that, like I think humor is a good signal, I think the ability to change is really nice, the ability to do things at a higher level is also really fun, and it reminds me of something my therapist said in a way. My therapist mentioned how someone who has their life together, it is successful and financially independent, how that’s a strong signal that correlates with emotional intelligence. Mostly just because when you have those basic needs met, you have the room to focus on emotional growth, similar to Maslow‘s hierarchy of needs. And also there’s the massive benefit of dual income which would be fucking fire, because I already make a lot of money on my own. I think if my future partner is also successful, having that level of wealth would be fucking awesome. Like I think that level of wealth really enables stuff like traveling the world, or being able to get a lot of really cool luxury things, like PC stuff, nice furniture, and of course the financial freedom. I already have the house part covered, and so I think if I can find a partner that is in a similar financial situation to me, that would be absolutely financial freedom.