An Open Letter

So it turns out it is not as easy as I thought. I made a Hinge yesterday, and I matched with someone that matched my energy and seemed really cool, and we even planned a date for Saturday. Today they ghosted me for like eight hours, and then mid finalizing the plan sent a ton of texts saying that they are deleting their account and apologizing for ghosting me along with a ton of other not great stuff. The other match that I had sent one half assed message, and then stopped responding, and it’s weird because I would am out of their league. I know that online dating apps are not great for men, and I hoped that I would be an exception now. I have an incredibly good job, I’m pretty successful, I’m physically attractive (from what others tell me), and I feel like I have a lot of qualities and values that are important to me for a partner. It’s only been one day so I don’t want to jump to any conclusions, but I already feel my self-esteem dropping. On one hand I know that dating apps and things like that are not at all accurate, but at the same time facing this much rejection back to back, especially from people that aren’t in my league, hurts. I don’t know, I feel like venting about this because it can be misinterpreted as some incel behavior, but it just hurts to feel this disconnect between all of the good feedback that I get from my friends, and the stark contrast of dating apps. I wish I could ask future me how I ended up meeting my wife. I hope it was worth it. I guess what seems the smartest would be to prioritize being happy regardless of dating, that way it doesn’t really matter how long it takes.